089: Why Men Today Are Repressed & Depressed — And How To Fix It w/ Ani Manian (The Mind Whisperer)

The Better Man Podcast

Something devastating happened to you when you turned seven years old…

You figured out your default state of being and thinking and trapped yourself in a “mind matrix.” Inside this “mind matrix,” your ego formed, your defense mechanisms solidified, and you started living the rest of our lives on autopilot.

This happens to everyone, not just you…

But the problem is, relying on defense mechanisms you formed when you were a child makes it easy to self-sabotage in adulthood.

To make matters worse… Most men stay trapped in these childhood behavior patterns because they’ve repressed them for so long they don’t even realize their impact—until gut-wrenching pain shocks your system and allows you to see the matrix.

That’s why I invited Ani Manian (aka The Mind Whisperer) onto today’s show.

Ani went through this matrix-shattering experience when his dad’s body got cremated. And since then, he’s discovered how to help other men go through these transformative experiences without the soul-crushing pain.

In today’s show, Ani reveals:

• How shame works into your subconscious and holds you back
• Why coping strategies you created as a child still control you today (and how making peace with these parts allows you to move forward)
• How to actually love yourself (and why men find self-love impossible)
• How to reach your true, limitless potential—no matter how many obstacles you encounter

And so much more, including these highlights…

• How to tap into the limitless potential sitting idly inside you (4:56)
• The weird reason why newborn babies have more control and contact with their emotions than full-grown men (9:18)
• The main reason why adults struggle with being present (and how to improve this skill) (11:55)
• How your nervous system creates a “Shell Identity” of yourself in early childhood that still limits you to this day (13:58)
• Why gut-wrenching emotional pain helps you see the “Ego Matrix” your trapped in (15:32)
• The “Check Engine Light” secret for using your suffering to reach your highest potential (22:23)
• Why you can trace back every self-sabotaging behavior in adulthood back to a childhood hero (30:02)
• The fundamental mistake people make on their self-growth journey that prevents them from escaping their programming (31:27)
• The “Shame Core” that you store deep inside yourself that makes transformative change impossible (44:47)
• Why deep friendships with other men is the most effective way to break free of self-defeating patterns (51:07)
• Do you struggle with loving yourself? This is the most practical and useful way to practice self-love (1:05:29)

Resources mentioned on this episode:

1. Scale with Psychology Podcast: If you’d like to learn more about Ani and his version of self-improvement, check out his podcast, Scale with Psychology, wherever you listen to podcasts.

2. Ani’s website: If you’re a high-level entrepreneur who wants more out of life, check out Ani’s website here: https://animanian.com/

3. Follow Ani on Instagram: Want to stay up-to-date with The Mind Whisperer? Follow Ani on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ani.manian/

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