12 |HAPPINESS: It Sets You Up for Success in Everything that You Do

The Catholic Midlife

Happiness, striving for happiness, is important in everything you do. Happiness sets us up for success - in Work, Love, and Play. In spiritual life. In doing the right things. In all of the above.

Create an ethic to strive for happiness.

Martin Seligman, the positive psychologist was out in his yard doing yard work. His daughter was maybe five or six. She said, “Daddy, do you remember when I was four? And I had to learn to stop whining and it was fairly hard for me, but I learned how to stop?”

Martin said, “Yes, I remember.”

She said, “Well, I think if I could learn how to stop whining, you could learn how to stop being so grumpy.”

He really took it to heart. He thought, “I could learn to be less grumpy and there's actually a lot of really good reasons why. I would want to do that.”

Last week, in Episode 11, we talked about Seligman's model of happiness as having three levels: the pleasant life, the good life and the meaningful life. The meaningful life is generally associated with using your strengths, your best virtues, and your highest values in the service of something bigger than yourself.

I am sure that reminds you of something as a Catholic.

In Matthew, 22:37, Jesus says the first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord, your God, with all your heart and soul and mind. And the second is like unto it: love your neighbor as yourself.

It’s funny how happiness and holiness coincide.

God made us for happiness. We want to be with Him. We want to be happy.

That great spiritual life wants to be integrated with the rest of you! Including with the mental and the emotional realms of you.

There are endless studies that show why it's great to be happy. To be happier. Happy people are healthier. They live longer. They overcome challenges better. They're more resilient. They have better relationships. They have more career success. They have less stress and anxiety.

You want to hang out with happy people. You probably wish the people around you were happier - it would make your own life better.

They likely have the same thought about you.

One of the biggest obstacles in spiritual life is discouragement. Happiness is a counter to discouragement. It requires us to trust in God, because that is fundamental for hope. Happiness requires hope that we are going somewhere, that what we do means something. That what we are experiencing will lead us to happiness.

Catholic philosopher Joseph Pieper wrote a treatise on hope. He says that one of the characteristics of a truly hopeful person is that they have a kind of youthful joy and experience of life that has an optimistic view. A perspective that lives life with a kind of a freshness of outlook and an interest and joy and awe and inspiration.

Let's strive for happiness. Let's find our hope and let's be those joyful people.

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