011|The Secret to Ending Arguments in Your Marriage: Yield, Don’t Defend

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Arguments in marriage can feel like a never-ending cycle, but there’s a way to break free. In this episode of Better Husband, I uncover the secret to ending arguments in your marriage: learning how to yield instead of defend. When you make your wife’s experience the priority instead of rushing to explain yourself, you can create deeper trust and connection.

I’ll share relatable examples—including one from one of my favorite movies, The Dark Knight Rises—to highlight how defensiveness erodes relationships and what it looks like to respond with empathy and generosity. Plus, I’ll teach you the exact steps to take when your partner is upset, including a powerful question to ask that can instantly de-escalate tension.

By the end, you’ll know how to:

• Respond to your wife with compassion instead of defensiveness.
• Listen deeply to her experience and reflect it back.
• Ask empathetic questions that prioritize her needs.
• Build trust and connection, one small moment at a time.

This episode is packed with practical advice to help you show up as the husband you know you can be.

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Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Why Defensiveness Doesn’t Work
01:30 Personal Story: Time and Presence in Marriage
04:18 The Dark Knight Rises Example: Listening vs. Defending
07:45 Practical Framework: Yield, Don’t Defend
11:22 Practical Exercises to Improve Listening and Empathy
13:45 Final Thoughts: How Yielding Builds Connection

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