The Prevalence of Domestic Violence Against Men - Interview with Ann Silvers, MA

Dad to Dads Podcast

In this episode, Robert interviews Ann Silvers, author of the book 'Abuse of Men by Women.' They discuss the prevalence of domestic violence against men, the misconceptions surrounding it, and the reasons behind it. Ann shares that domestic violence is just as common among men as it is among women, with a ratio of 1 in 2 for both genders. However, the issue is often overlooked and underreported. They also discuss the various forms of partner abuse and the tactics used by women to overcome the size disadvantage. The conversation highlights the need for emotional intelligence and coping skills to address domestic violence. False accusations and the devastating impact they have on men are discussed. The conversation highlights the cultural bias towards believing women and disbelieving men, which has led to a fast road for malicious women to get what they want. The conversation also touches on the challenges men face in leaving abusive relationships, including fear of losing their children, economic constraints, and shame and embarrassment. Warning signs of abuse in men are mentioned, and resources for support are provided.
Takeaways

• Domestic violence against men is more common than previously thought, with a ratio of 1 in 2 for both men and women.
• Partner abuse can take various forms, including physical, verbal, sexual, financial, legal, spiritual, and psychological/emotional abuse.
• Women can use tactics such as surprise attacks, false accusations, and object use to overcome the size disadvantage.
• Emotional intelligence and coping skills are crucial in addressing domestic violence.
• Cultural attitudes and media portrayals contribute to the misconception that violence against men is acceptable or humorous. False accusations can have devastating consequences for men, including loss of custody, domestic violence classes, and damage to their reputation.
• The cultural bias of believing women and disbelieving men has created a fast road for malicious women to make false accusations.
• Men may stay in abusive relationships due to fear of losing their children, economic constraints, and shame and embarrassment.
• It is important to take men's stories of abuse seriously and provide support without minimizing their experiences.
• Warning signs of abuse in men include physical injuries, emotional belittlement, and minimizing themselves.
• Resources for support include recording evidence, seeking legal advice, and finding people who can provide declarations of abuse.

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