Raising Children After Divorce With Christina McGhee

Divorce Dialogues

Divorce leaves us overwhelmed and vulnerable, compromising our ability to parent well. And despite our best intentions, we may inadvertently dismiss our kids’ feelings or put them in an uncomfortable position. So, what can we do to gain a better understanding of what our children are going through during a divorce? How can we learn to coparent in a way that puts kids first? Christina McGhee is the divorce-parenting expert behind Divorce and Children and author of the highly acclaimed book, Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. Christina is also the creator of the Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals and consulting producer of the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Christina joins Katherine to explain why it’s crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce and how to own it when you make a parenting mistake. Christina describes how children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle to recognize their own needs as they become young adults. Listen in for Christina’s advice on validating the way kids feel (without stepping in to fix the problem first) and learn how to choose professionals who take a child-centered approach to divorce. Topics Covered How Christina’s parents’ divorce informs her work as a divorce-parenting expert Why Christina credits her ‘bonus kids’ as her best teachers on parenting children of divorce Why it’s crucial to create space for kids to talk about their experience of divorce The challenge of owning it when you make a mistake with your kids (and why it’s so important) The premise behind the films SPLIT: The Early Years and SPLIT UP: The Teen Years How children of divorce often feel the need to caretake their parents and struggle with recognizing their own needs as they become young adults How parents can be the best possible resource for kids who are navigating divorce What it looks like to validate the way children of divorce feel without stepping in to fix the problem Christina’s Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training for divorce professionals How to choose a divorce professional who takes a child-centered approach Connect with Christina McGhee Divorce and Children: https://divorceandchildren.com/ Christina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorceandchildren/ Christina on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/divorceandchildren Christina on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christinamcghee/en Split Film: https://www.splitfilm.org/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: [e-mail] Call [phone] Resources Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids by Christina McGhee: https://divorceandchildren.com/christinas-book-parenting-apart/ Christina’s Co-Parenting Specialist Certification Training: https://divorceandchildren.com/co-parenting-specialist-training/ Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP190: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/healing-conversations-with-children-of-divorce-with-ellen-bruno Ellen Bruno on Divorce Dialogues EP045: https://divorcedialogues.miller-law.com/empowering-kids-to-share-their-experience-with-divorce/