27: Imaginary Other: Surviving arguments with relationships intact

Following the Fire

Probably none of you need to hear this episode, since none of you have ever had an argument, but in case you do find yourself in an argument, this episode is for you. Nathan, a self-appointed expert on arguing, gives us the ABC’s of arguments. How to approach them, how to diffuse them, and how to know when to stop pushing and let go. We also talk about true Scotsmen, belief vs. faith, and when losing on purpose is Christ-like.

Intro

• Nathan was a debate nerd
• Steve was a music nerd
• They both somehow avoided getting beaten up for it
• John Hughes films
• Film: Rocky
• “Belief” by John Mayer (Spotify Link)

Advice for Arguments

• Assume Positive Intent
• Big Picture
• Curiosity
• Ted Lasso
• Nathan is cheap
• Jesus talking to the Syrophoenician (Canaanite) woman - Matthew 15:22-28
• Calling of Matthew - Matthew 9:9-13
• Calling the fishermen - Calling the fishermen
• “If you’re at the altar…” - Matthew 5:23-24
• Take the log out of your own eye first - Matthew 7:3-5
• Song: “Man In the Mirror” by Michael Jackson Spotify link
• Alan Watts
• Parable of the Good Samaritan - Luke 10:25-37
• Cartoon: Somebody’s wrong on the internet
• “Such a time as this…”Esther 4:14
• Gandalf quote
• Lord’s Prayer - Lord’s Prayer

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