# 154 - Toxic Love in 2023

Kiya Kahe Ga Kazi

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Segments

0:00 Celebrating the new year

1:06 using headphones while podcasting for the first time

2:23 Is an unmarried 29-year-old woman a failure?

4:21 Defining failure 6:08 Are we generally a cold people?

7:50 Respecting the reality shaping power of the context

10:26 Only fail when you stop trying

12:13 A 16-year-old asks me about self-rewarding behaviors

15:32 Why self-care is essential

16:55 My first experience with a therapist

18:30 The concept of 'earning' self-love

20:06 The Stanford dopamine study

22:43 Doing the work needs to become its own reward

24:12 The dangers of associating dopamine with the outcome

24:55 The best way to avoid burnout

26:10 A person searching for happiness will always be unhappy

28:01 Ryan Holiday on speaking about and doing a certain thing

29:23 My problem is a man who won't admit his feelings toward me

30:27 Using the word 'depression,' properly

31:07 Whose fault is this unrequited love

34:01 The key to your destruction rests with your loved ones

35:21 Maya Angelou on believing people

36:19 The cognitive tax of unrequited love

37:15 I get invited to IBA as a guest of honor

39:36 I wonder why they would invite me

42:40 An anon lover concerned with how a person looks

46:04 What is empathy

47:31 The cure for unrequited love?

50:35 Who is really my friend?

53:04 Are you really becoming ruthless?

54:00 The temporal quality of memories

55:04 Are friendships a form of passing the time?

57:13 Entitlement isn't fair to anyone

59:30 The different kinds of friends

01:01 The story of Hot Spot in Karachi

01:04 Feelings connected to time more than space

01:05 Thoughts and prayers on 2022 and 2023

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