Losing Relationship Strategies #5 Resentful Accommodation

Master Your Marriage

Is sacrifice no longer a virtue?

In this episode, we discuss the concept of resentful accommodation in marriage. We explore the idea that sacrifice is often seen as a virtue in relationships, but there is a point where sacrifice can become unvirtuous and detrimental to the relationship. What's the difference between virtuous sacrifice, which benefits everyone involved, and unvirtuous sacrifice, which is done to avoid discomfort or gain approval?

We share personal examples of resentful accommodation in our own marriage and discuss the costs and consequences of this losing strategy. Open communication and mutual decision-making in healthy sacrifice are key!

Takeaways

• Sacrifice is an integral part of most intimate relationships, but there is a point where sacrifice can become unvirtuous and detrimental to the relationship.
• Virtuous sacrifice benefits everyone involved, while unvirtuous sacrifice is done to avoid discomfort or gain approval.
• Resentful accommodation, a form of unvirtuous sacrifice, leads to under-functioning and resentment in the relationship.
• Open communication and mutual decision-making are essential in healthy sacrifice.
• It is important to self-reflect and identify any resentments or unvirtuous sacrifices in the relationship in order to address and resolve them.

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