199: Digging Deeper into Parenting Beyond Power with Rachel Disney

Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

Listener Rachel also reached out with some questions, and due to my book tour schedule it took us a little longer to get a call on the calendar, but eventually - on a day in Seattle when I also had a coaching call and two two-hour workshops based on the book - we made it happen.

Rachel's questions go deeeep. She wanted to know:

• If there are ideas I logically know are the right ones to follow but I still have trouble doing it;
• How my parenting is evolving as Carys gets older (her own daughter is a year older than Carys);
• Whether I think my view of parenting is possible within the social and political systems in which we currently live.

Parenting Beyond Power

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Taming Your Triggers

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• Often feel triggered by your child’s difficult behavior…
• Want to find out how to get your child to stop doing the thing that drives you up the wall
• Know you want to respond calmly to your child but can’t seem to do it in the moment…
• Want to parent with love and connection even on the most stressful days
• Feel like gentle parenting techniques won’t ‘work’ with your child

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Jump to Highlights

01:20 Introducing today’s guest and topic 03:51 Rachel asks how the content of Parenting Beyond Power differs from that of the podcast 07:19 Rachel appreciates the comprehensiveness of the book and asks if there will be another on the topic of Taming Your Triggers. 07:56 Jen recommends a related book and emphasizes the value of community support for deep inner work in changing reactions to triggers. 08:46 Rachel asks whether power is inherently bad, specifically in the context of parents having power. 14:01 Jen warns against using parental power to control love and belonging through conditional rewards, leading to an unhealthy dynamic with children. 15:12 Rachel asks Jen about personal struggles applying podcast principles, questioning if difficulties persist despite knowing they're right. 19:32 Jen emphasizes recognizing resistance in both children and adults and discusses the trifecta of frustration, anger, and resentment as indicators of unmet needs for parents and children. 21:39 Jen discusses how she reconciles being research-based when acknowledging the biases in the research. 26:42 Rachel asks how Jen measures success. 28:18 They explore whether it's reasonable to ask parents, especially White parents, to challenge societal norms and emphasize the collective responsibility to confront and dismantle systems rooted in White supremacy. 32:28 The conversation mentions the overrepresentation of participants with one or two children, speculating on political leanings. Jen affirms her parenting approach's relevance for families with more children.

36:00 Jen talks about her hopes for readers and what she wants them to take away from the book.

39:33 Rachel acknowledges understanding the book's emphasis on building a better society through individual change. 40:23 Wrapping up the discussion