Resolutions—what works and what doesn’t

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Resolutions—what works and what doesn’t and why.

It’s really important that you don’t repeat the same things that didn’t work last time. You want to make this time to be different.

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As we mentioned in the Labels episode, we like to label things because it’s a shortcut. And that can make you dumber or smarter. It can also give too much power to the thing. And it’s that last point we’re discussing today—the power you give new years resolutions and the “beginning” of a new year. The new ‘start.’

[INSERT YEAR] is going to be different and I will [INSERT ACCOMPLISHMENT].

OK.

The difference.

Resolutions are good for one-off actions. They are good for things you want to do or not do and declare.

Things like these:

• I’ll stop eating everything on my plate just because it’s there
• I will always switch the laundry to the dryer the same day I wash them
• I will always load the dishwasher
• I will always tell my kids/spouse I love them every day
• I will stop eating so fast
• I will always try to find at least one nice thing to say about everyone
• I’ll never let the gas tank go below 50%
• I will speak up when someone upsets me
• No more phone in bed
• I will read 30 pages a day

Etc. These are “one off” kind of things you just remember to do.

But even these are probably indicative of a higher issue, a system that is in place. The eating everything may be due to guilt you have about food which stems from something else and is causing other actions that are unfavorable. The not switching could be due to not focusing, or prioritization, or the dreading of the folding. The phone in bed may be a missing comfort due to lack thereof in your life (which could be a huge issue of self-care), or a lack of fun (again self-care), or a replacement activity (replacing what you should be doing) or a deflection of sleep which means a delay in bringing forth tomorrow.

Let’s talk about the difference, what works, what doesn’t, which are part of a system. And let’s help you make the ones that work.

And if you want more thorough, hands-on work to see what systems are in place that these resolutions reveal, reach out for a free no-obligation chat to see if the Alchemy for Life™ coaching system is a fit for you.

Supporting episodes:

• If you use them you’ll get smarter (or dumber
• Too much power to something via label
• Dread
• Selfishness Demystified
• Self Love and Self Care Revisited

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