S8E6 - Planning and The Blame

The Golden Spoon

Do you get blamed for a lot of things, even the ones that aren’t your fault? There are many factors as to why family members would treat you this way. Personality disorders, racial discrimination, gender discrimination, and past trauma are just some. Being in a dysfunctional environment such as this can certainly take a toll on your physical and mental health. That’s why if you find that you’re currently stuck in this situation, please don’t hesitate to ask for help.

Keep in touch with supportive friends, distant relatives, or even professional workers and let them know how you’re doing. It’s not good to keep everything inside as well as harboring grudges either. Have forgiveness in your heart and know that there is always a way out of it.
Have you ever had a family member badmouth you in front of friends or guests? It certainly doesn’t feel great, and chances are, the words still ring clear in your head until now. This situation usually happens when you’re raised by narcissistic parents. Because they want to appear perfect to other people, they would distance themselves from things that would possibly disrupt that illusion, even if it’s through badmouthing their own relatives.

Have you ever had a family member yell at you for an error they personally made? They don’t know how to cope with the sudden burst of their energy. They might yell or lash out at you for something that you are in no way related to just because they can. Put some distance between you two and be careful not to engage with them in their state. You are not the problem here. First, accept that what they’re saying about you isn’t true. You are a wonderful person. Next, understand that every person faces battles of their own. After you’ve learned to accept yourself, it’s likely time to accept that your family members are flawed people, too. It’s never about you. How they treat you says more about them.
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