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#140 How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
Manage episode 418781592 series 2903216
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe
Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/
This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships.
Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort.
We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions.
Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship.
- Living with a Hoarding Partner
- Challenges for the non-hoarding partner
- Understanding hoarding behaviour
- Impact of conflict in relationships
- Approaching hoarding issues as a couple
- Communication and Decision Making
- Importance of open and honest communication
- Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions
- Examples of different approaches to decluttering
- Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers
- Clear communication and healthy boundary setting
- Communicating core needs with a partner
- A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries
- Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics
- Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy
- Encouraging honest and respectful communication
- The goal of therapy in relationships
- Valuing the time spent in a relationship
- Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations
- Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way
- The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests
- The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings
- Building and Sustaining Relationships
- Acknowledging each partner's needs
- Significance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understanding
- Challenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict.
- Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder.
- Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love.
- Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain.
- Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal.
- Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions.
- Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions.
- Setting boundaries is important for relationships.
- Progress is non-linear
- Seeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success.
- Leaving with integrity and seeking support.
- It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs.
- Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships.
- Advocate for needs
- Common conflict communication pattern is attack-defend.
- Skilled communication improves relationships.
- Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication.
- Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support.
- Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues.
- Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions.
- Honest communication and creativity in relationships.
- Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships.
- Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships.
- Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support.
- Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.
186 odcinków
Manage episode 418781592 series 2903216
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe
Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/
This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships.
Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort.
We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions.
Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship.
- Living with a Hoarding Partner
- Challenges for the non-hoarding partner
- Understanding hoarding behaviour
- Impact of conflict in relationships
- Approaching hoarding issues as a couple
- Communication and Decision Making
- Importance of open and honest communication
- Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions
- Examples of different approaches to decluttering
- Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers
- Clear communication and healthy boundary setting
- Communicating core needs with a partner
- A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries
- Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics
- Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy
- Encouraging honest and respectful communication
- The goal of therapy in relationships
- Valuing the time spent in a relationship
- Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations
- Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way
- The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests
- The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings
- Building and Sustaining Relationships
- Acknowledging each partner's needs
- Significance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understanding
- Challenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict.
- Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder.
- Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love.
- Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain.
- Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal.
- Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions.
- Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions.
- Setting boundaries is important for relationships.
- Progress is non-linear
- Seeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success.
- Leaving with integrity and seeking support.
- It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs.
- Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships.
- Advocate for needs
- Common conflict communication pattern is attack-defend.
- Skilled communication improves relationships.
- Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication.
- Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support.
- Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues.
- Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions.
- Honest communication and creativity in relationships.
- Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships.
- Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships.
- Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support.
- Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.
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