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Growing Up With Boarding School Parents | Neglect, Abandonment, Addictions AEM #105 Gabriel Hershman
Manage episode 435743145 series 3438909
Gabriel Hershman is an author who also publishes under the name of Daniel Kupfermann. He has written 5 books, so far. Four were film biographies and written under the name of Gabriel Hershman. He has also written a memoir called, Don't Be So Sensitive.
“I decided to write the memoir under a pseudonym as a demarkation from my other work but also to shield the work from other living family members.
I grew up in London and then moved to Portugal and then Bulgaria. Writing a memoir is always a work in progress and it was only when I'd finished the book that I realised I'd been dealing with 4 family members who had attended boarding school and the strange effects on their psyche."
Questions for Gabriel:
- I would love for you to share how you got into writing. What drew you to write your autobiography?
- What was it like growing up? Could you please share some of your journey growing up?
- What was it like being a day pupil at a school where there were boarders? What did you make of boarding at that age?
- Could you please talk about highly sensitive people (HSP)? What is it? P.7
- Your step-father Gerard's experience of boarding school: He was “sent away” “despatched” “being kicked in the teeth.” P.24 “he'd been through a tough time at boarding school” P.83
- The physical, mental and emotional treatment you received from Gerard. What was it like growing up with an ex-boarder? P58 – “Gerard criticised me...” and would then.. P.59 “lose his temper.”
- Even though Gerard had had a tough time at boarding school (your mother saying that he'd had “an emotional hysterectomy”) why did he want to send you away to one? P.83
- As I was reading the book I could see many of Gerard's traits as symptoms of trauma/ boarding school syndrome: only interested in beautiful women/ weathy people, trying to curry favour with people. He had to win everytime. Very critical of you.
- Leaving you for most of the winter age 10 with your alcoholic half-brother age 20. How was that for you? P.88 (Your mother leaving the same age her mother died age 10 – P.94)
- Having no one to validate your feelings and left alone (P.134) How was that for you?
- The experiences of your half-brothers and your mother's at boarding school (P.144)
- Your experiences of Dulwich - “Dulwich was remarkably sink or swim.” P.151 Bullying P.160
- What other aspects are there to these single-sex 'elite' schools that are detrimental to development?
- Four members of your family went to boarding school and all became problem drinker. Could you please talk to that?
- Your debilitating speech problem. Where do you think that arose from?
- How do people find out more about your work and books
To purchase his memoir: https://amzn.eu/d/gR05hc9
To purchase his books on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/eTOwAHN
To connect with him on LinkedIn please visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabriel-hershman-24955619/?originalSubdomain=bg
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/
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Growing Up With Boarding School Parents | Neglect, Abandonment, Addictions AEM #105 Gabriel Hershman
Manage episode 435743145 series 3438909
Gabriel Hershman is an author who also publishes under the name of Daniel Kupfermann. He has written 5 books, so far. Four were film biographies and written under the name of Gabriel Hershman. He has also written a memoir called, Don't Be So Sensitive.
“I decided to write the memoir under a pseudonym as a demarkation from my other work but also to shield the work from other living family members.
I grew up in London and then moved to Portugal and then Bulgaria. Writing a memoir is always a work in progress and it was only when I'd finished the book that I realised I'd been dealing with 4 family members who had attended boarding school and the strange effects on their psyche."
Questions for Gabriel:
- I would love for you to share how you got into writing. What drew you to write your autobiography?
- What was it like growing up? Could you please share some of your journey growing up?
- What was it like being a day pupil at a school where there were boarders? What did you make of boarding at that age?
- Could you please talk about highly sensitive people (HSP)? What is it? P.7
- Your step-father Gerard's experience of boarding school: He was “sent away” “despatched” “being kicked in the teeth.” P.24 “he'd been through a tough time at boarding school” P.83
- The physical, mental and emotional treatment you received from Gerard. What was it like growing up with an ex-boarder? P58 – “Gerard criticised me...” and would then.. P.59 “lose his temper.”
- Even though Gerard had had a tough time at boarding school (your mother saying that he'd had “an emotional hysterectomy”) why did he want to send you away to one? P.83
- As I was reading the book I could see many of Gerard's traits as symptoms of trauma/ boarding school syndrome: only interested in beautiful women/ weathy people, trying to curry favour with people. He had to win everytime. Very critical of you.
- Leaving you for most of the winter age 10 with your alcoholic half-brother age 20. How was that for you? P.88 (Your mother leaving the same age her mother died age 10 – P.94)
- Having no one to validate your feelings and left alone (P.134) How was that for you?
- The experiences of your half-brothers and your mother's at boarding school (P.144)
- Your experiences of Dulwich - “Dulwich was remarkably sink or swim.” P.151 Bullying P.160
- What other aspects are there to these single-sex 'elite' schools that are detrimental to development?
- Four members of your family went to boarding school and all became problem drinker. Could you please talk to that?
- Your debilitating speech problem. Where do you think that arose from?
- How do people find out more about your work and books
To purchase his memoir: https://amzn.eu/d/gR05hc9
To purchase his books on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/eTOwAHN
To connect with him on LinkedIn please visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabriel-hershman-24955619/?originalSubdomain=bg
---
Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross
For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic
For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community
Many blessings,
Piers Cross
http://piers-cross.com/
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