270 How to Survive Marital Infidelity: Faith, Forgiveness, and Fidelity

Your Hope-Filled Perspective with Dr. Michelle Bengtson podcast

Episode Summary:

In this episode, I chat with Jill Savage of “No More Perfect Marriages.” She shared her story of infidelity in her marriage, and how God has since healed her marriage so that she and her husband, Mark, now have a beautiful sacred scar and are able to minister to other married couples in despair.

Quotables from the episode:

• The normal trials of life is the stuff that ultimately leaves us with sacred scars.
• Painful trials are part of our normal experience this side of heaven.
• Our marriage experienced a slow-fade while we both had huge responsibilities outside the home.
• The downward spiral started with an emotional affair and then resulted in a physical affair.
• The enemy took a direct hit to our greatest area of ministry.
• I began a one year process of standing for my marriage.
• “Standing for Your Marriage” is when one spouse believes and contends for the marriage while the other spouse checks out.
• The most painful thing I have ever experienced was my husband’s betrayal.
• I had a ministry based on authenticity and I determined to be open and honest about my pain.
• I didn’t cause my husband’s infidelity, but I did contribute to the dysfunction in my marriage.
• It’s important that we build a supportive community outside of times of tragedy because when we’re in a crisis, we don’t have the energy to do that.
• We can use our hard times as fertilizer for growth!
• As I began to change, my husband started seeing that as his own personal seeds of growth.
• God can turn our pain into his purposes.
• God forgives us the first time we ask—when are we going to forgive ourselves?
• Nothing is impossible with God.
• The God of the universe wants to do his best work in the cracks of your life.
• It takes two to build a marriage, but it takes one to divorce.
• It takes two to restore a marriage, but it takes One to restore a life.

Recommended Resources:

• How to Rebuild Trust After Cheating
• Rebuilding Trust: The Only Time Words Don’t Matter in Marriage
• My Heart is Broken: Your Next Steps for When Your Spouse is Unfaithful by Jill Savage and Joss Cambridge
• Your Next Steps: What to Do When Your Spouse is Unfaithful by Jill Savage
• No More Perfect Marriages: Experience the Freedom of Being Real Together by Mark and Jill Savage
• FREE Rebuilding Trust Guide
• Rebuilding Trust Course
• The Wait Is Not Wasted Course
• Sacred Scars: Resting in God’s Promise That Your Past Is Not Wasted by Dr. Michelle Bengtson
• The Hem of His Garment: Reaching Out to God When Pain Overwhelms by Dr. Michelle Bengtson
• YouVersion 5-Day Devotional Reaching Out To God When Pain Overwhelms
• Today is Going to be a Good Day: 90 Promises to Start Your Day Off Right by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the AWSA 2023 Inspirational Gift Book of the Year Award, the Christian Literary Awards Reader’s Choice Award in four categories, and the Christian Literary Awards Henri Award for Devotionals
• YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be a Good Day
• YouVersion 7-Day Devotional, Today is Going to be Another Good Day
• Breaking Anxiety’s Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises by Dr. Michelle Bengtson
• Breaking Anxiety’s Grip Free Study Guide
• Free 7-Day YouVersion Bible Reading Plan for Breaking Anxiety’s Grip
• Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award
• Hope Prevails Bible Study by Dr. Michelle Bengtson, winner of the Christian Literary Award Reader’s Choice Award
• Trusting God Through Cancer 1
• Trusting God Through Cancer 2
• Revive & Thrive Women's Conference
• Subdue Stress and Anxiety: Fifteen Experts Offer Comprehensive Tools in Ten Minutes a Day. Use my link plus discount code BENG99 to save $90 on course (course will be $99.)
• Free Download: How To Fight Fearful/Anxious Thoughts and Win

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Guest:

Jill Savage is an author and speaker who is passionate about relationships. She has been called one of today’s most exciting female speakers. Her honest, engaging communication is strengthened by her ability to make her audience laugh while they learn.

Jill is the host of the No More Perfect Podcast and the author of fourteen books including Empty Nest, Full Life, Real Moms ... Real Jesus, the best-selling No More Perfect Moms, No More Perfect Kids, Better Together, and No More Perfect Marriages. Jill and her husband, Mark, live in Illinois and have five children and eight grandchildren. You can find Jill online at www.jillsavage.org.

Hosted By: Dr. Michelle Bengtson Audio Technical Support: Bryce Bengtson