64. Why You Create Deeper Connection when you Stop People Pleasing with Amy Green Smith

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As a people pleaser, I know how complicated it is. It feels like it's part of who we are and how we like to give and show up for others. But when can it be not so good for us, or even not so good for those that we care most about? When does it get unhealthy, inauthentic, and maybe even keep us stuck and unhappy in ways?
In this interview with Amy Smith Green - who is amazing - we discuss WHY we people please, how to feel into when it's not serving you, beginning to notice when you do it, how to shift so that you can operate from your highest, best version of yourself and feel deeper calm, happiness AND connection.
In the episode we get into:

• Why we feel like it's more important to make others happy over ourselves
• How to communicate your truth with grace and kindness
• How to balance your wishes for your kids with allowing them to be their authentic unique selves
• Why it's important to become comfortable being a disappointment
• The big connection between worthiness and speaking our truth
• Why we feel safe with the people who set boundaries
• Where emotional intelligence fits in with people pleasing
• How our emotions are messengers telling us important information, but isn't a reflection of our worthiness
• Why it's so important to give the people we love the opportunity to be what we need by communicating honestly
• Why delivery of your message is the key to getting what you want
• Why fear responses don't work and why we do them
• How to use vulnerability to set the energetic tone in conflict
• Why conversational consent (timing!) can totally change a difficult convo
• How to teach your kids it's ok to express anger in safe and appropriate ways
• Why the container of how you hold a high conflict topic is crucial to having a healthy and respectful conversation

SO many of us fall back on people pleasing and there are times when it feels good and works! But there are also times when we may want to look at giving ourselves permission to be honest and real, and by doing so, we're creating much deeper and more meaningful connection.
A lot to think about and so much to open up to!

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